I am writing a letter from a High School to a Judge and his wife regarding their child. What is the proper greeting? Dear ………… ??
— Thanks, D.N.
On pages 145-146 in my chapter on Joint Forms of Address I answer this question.
The most formal form on the envelope would be
The Honorable Franklin Jennings
and Mrs. Jennings
2345 Westside Road
Melville, NY 11747
The most formal saluation would be
Dear Judge Jennings and Mrs. Jennings:
Most formally people who have high titles get their whole name as a unit, all by itself … so “Dear Judge and Mrs. Jennings” would not be traditionally correct. Wives who use the same surname as their spouses traditionally lose their given name with addressed with their husband.
– Robert Hickey www.formsofaddress.info